1. Wherever you find your escort, research her. Does she have a website, does she have ads going back at least 6 months, does she have reviews (although some escorts do not like being reviewed)? Google her name and phone number or email before contacting her. Also expect her to want to screen your for her own safety; be respectful and provide whatever info she requires.  

    2. 2 Be on time, or call if you will be more than 10 minutes late. Unless you are giving notice of a time change well in advance, expect to pay for the time you missed. If your 60 minute date was supposed to start at 7 and you get there at 7:15, STILL LEAVE AT 8. Please respect the escort's time and schedule, and don't linger. Even if the escort genuinely enjoyed the time with you, it is annoying and awkward if you overstay. If you want more time, ask and if she says yes, expect to pay for it at the rate previously discussed.  

    3. 3 Know what's on menu in advance and do not deviate from it. Escorts use code words like, CIM, greek, GFE, PSE... google these before you call or email.  

    4. 4 Never ever discuss sexual acts or money in person. For your own safety! If it is a sting, they will try to get you to say what you are there for out loud. When in doubt, kiss the girl or ask her to get more comfortable. If she complies, green light!  

    5. 5 Money first always! If you must refer to it at any time, call it a gift. Do not hand the money directly to her, set it down where she can see it, or wherever you were told to beforehand, (often by the sink in the bathroom).  

    6. 6 Be nice, treat her like a lady, and be respectful. She is a real person, you don't need to be intimidated and you certainly shouldn't feel superior either.  

    7. 7 Don't feel like you need to blow her mind sexually. While noble, and very sweet, she is there for you. Do not hold back at the beginning because you want to last for her, this often ends in not being able to finish at all. Which nobody wants. You can take care of her after if you enjoy that, but no pressure here either.  

    8. 8 Try to read her cues. She is a real women with real likes and dislikes. Not everyone wants to be talked dirty to, or smash-cuddled post coitus. Some might love it though!  

    9. 9 She will not be offended if you need to leave right after. Whether you need to get back to work, or just aren't into idle chit-chat and cuddling, do your thing. She will enjoy the extra down-time. If you have a genuine rapport or chemistry, or if you are just enjoying the company and a break from real life, then stay the whole time! She will be happy either way.  

    10. 10 Tip! Always tip. No one care if it's $20 or $200, tip your escort. Unless she was terrible. Tipping lets the woman know that you liked her and that you appreciate her time and effort. This is especially important if you want to see the escort again. If you went for a twofer, then tip extra well!  

    11. 11 Ask her if she would like to be reviewed. If yes, keep it simple, and do not fabricate. If you say she did something that she didn't, other clients may expect that same service in the future.  

    12. 12 Always be clean!!! Very very clean. If you just came from work or whatever, take a quick shower at the location. You don't want to be known as the 'Smegma-Guy'.  

    13. 13 That's it! Real advice from real escorts.  

    14. 14 Bring wine or a gift. Escorts love this and you will go right to the front of the line, hopefully. Wine can help to get you both relaxed and comfortable and is a good social lubricant when you have to make all the magic happen in an hour or two. You can ask in advance what she likes, and don't forget the glasses! Gift certificates are always a safe bet if you want to bring a gift, stores like Amazon, Victoria's Secret, Bath and Body, etc. If you know the escort well, you may want to give her more personalized gifts like lingerie, jewelry, and perfume. ****Super extra bonus points if you buy her drinks/take her to dinner first, (WHILE she is being compensated for her time at her usual rate). If you really enjoy her company and can afford to do this, this is the best way to make her feel special. Remember she is on the clock though, and do not ever ask her to meet for free. That is a line neither of you should cross.  



      Community Q&A

    • If she is not the person in the picture can I leave?   Yes, you would have every right to leave. 

    • Is deep, prolonged kissing frowned upon?   It often is, but just ask the escort how she feels about kissing ahead of time.

    • What if I'm not very good-looking?  It won't matter as much as you might think. Everyone has different tastes and opinions about what is or isn't attractive, and for many people, personality is more important than looks anyway.

    • How do I get more clients?     Tom De Backer This is a business like any other; treat it as such. Building a client base takes time, but the quality of the product or service is key. Once clients are convinced of the quality, your client base will grow. However, in this particular business, you must research your clients and don't hesitate to refuse. Word-of-mouth advertising will be key.  

    • Is there an industry standard for what comprises an hour? I expect sixty minutes starting from the moment I am free to commence the act(s) we have agreed upon.    As a general rule, the time starts at the moment you have agreed, whether you use it or not. If you have agreed at six, but you are not free until six thirty, you only have thirty minutes left. As with anything, clear arrangements that all parties have agreed to beforehand avoid confusion and arguments after the fact. 

    • If a girl does only FBSM (including a happy ending, but nothing else) is she still considered an escort? Also, do escorts review clients, and if so, where do I find them?     Tom De Backer 1) FBSM stands for Full Body Sensual Massage and it is offered by some escorts. There is no 'happy ending' included in the definition. In fact, there is a whole range from normal massages to sexual intercourse that can all be covered by this acronym. Make sure you sort out beforehand what is available and make your preferences known. 2) There is no database of client reviews. However, escorts do research on clients beforehand. This includes social media, Google, and asking colleagues. If you have misbehaved before, she is very likely to find out.  2

    • What does "no BBS" mean?   BBS" means "no bareback sex," so a condom is required.  

    • What should I do if my prostitute has a penis?  Sexual preferences are different for everyone. Make sure to indicate your preferences beforehand. If anything occurs that you are not comfortable with, just say so. 

    • How can I ask an escort what she's willing to do?      Open communication is often the best way to go, though talking instead of doing may lead to awkwardness. Use your body language to let the escort know what you want. They will often be experienced in picking up these clues. If not, be vocal and straightforward. 

    • How much should I expect to pay for intercourse on top of her hourly fee?    In general, the hourly fee should include intercourse. However, it is best to make sure you know beforehand what she charges for which services, so sort all of this out when making your appointment.